Every relationship hits a plateau after a while. After all, the excitement and newness of being together can only last so long. While it is natural to fall into a routine and become more comfortable with each other, there is a difference between being content and being in a rut. If you find yourselves not communicating, fighting frequently or looking for ways to spend time apart it may be a sign that your relationship is not going to last. If you’re wondering whether or not your relationship might be over read on to learn the 5 signs that it just might be time to call it quits.
There is no communication
This, believe it or not, is the biggest red flag. If you find your partner not talking to you about the everyday aspects of his life then that is a problem. It is natural to want to discuss daily activities and more with the person you love. They are supposed to be your go-to person, the one who listens and gives you support and advice. If your partner used to do that with you and has stopped it is a sign they are not interested. More importantly, if they are not confiding in you that means they may not trust you and likely they are confiding in someone else, a sure sign that things are not good.
They spend more and more time at work
Yes, everyone has to work and there will be times your significant other will work late. However, if they normally work late once every 3 months and now they are working late every week or even every night, without some obvious reason like tax season, that is a red flag that they are avoiding you. Even worse, they may be seeing someone else or getting together with an ex, which would explain why they are gone so much. Either way, they are spending less time with you, which is not good. Time apart is healthy when it’s natural, not due to avoidance.
There is no affection
It is not natural to constantly be showered with gifts, but if your sweetie goes from hugs and cuddling to pecks on the cheek you should be worried. When you’re in love you want to show affection; it doesn’t have to be all day every day, but you should exchange kisses or hug through the course of a day. Lack of affection usually means a lack of caring, so if your partner is less than sweet you may need to ask why.
They start hiding things
While your significant other doesn’t need to share everything with you, if they suddenly start hiding thongs or avoiding questions, that is definite cause for concern. If they put a lock on their cell phone, change the password to accounts you normally have access to or hang up the phone when you walk in the room that means they are doing something they don’t want you to know, which is a bad sign. People almost always only hide negative things: odds are they are not being secretive to plan a surprise party for you, so you may need to speak up to find out what they are up to.
Sex become less frequent or stops
Intimacy is a healthy part of any relationship. While it is okay, even normal to have periods of less sex, if it happens in combination with one of the other signs that is not a good sign for the future of your relationship. Your partner should desire you – if they stop then there is a chance it is because they are desiring someone else.
Bear in mind that these are just a few signs of relationship trouble. The most important sign is how you feel – if you think something’s wrong, odds are something is.